Inheritance is what you leave for others; Legacy is what you leave in others.
As a parent, I sometimes feel that it is easier to provide for my children than nurture them. Nurturing takes a lot more time, love, patience and devotion. It is so much easier to just fix their meals, buy them things and see to their day to day comforts than teaching them to be more responsible and considerate of others. As they grow older, they have stronger views and it gets even harder for parents to influence them.

This scenario is all too familiar in my own parenting journey. Over the years, I began to realise that I have to be selective in the issues I engage my teens with. It will be a huge mistake to address every issue of misalignment you have with your loved ones as everyone has a unique personality and it is quite expected that the natural diversity will lead to differences in thinking and doing. Insisting on change and compliance will result in children either rebelling or withdrawing from the family as communication breaks down.

I found that personality profiling yielded very helpful insights to understand dynamics between parents and children. In my own family situation, the Golden Personality Type Profiling (GPTP) and the SOSIE 2nd Generation (SOSIE) Profiling allowed us to identify the points of friction and tension that resulted from the interplay of our different personalities. We started to understand how we can be more understanding towards each other, and at the same time became more conscious our natural tendencies that may exasperate others.

Therefore, apart from helping to explain frustrating relationship issues that seem to replay, coaching with personality profiling by a skilled professional can help the individuals identify personal areas of growth. Through their GPTP and SOSIE profiles, my teens began to understand why they have different effects on different people (thankfully, including their parents) and also became aware of their inborn derailers that could potentially sabotage their future progress and success.

Lastly, I find that personality profiling tools are also very useful in giving young career seekers clearer perspectives of what suit them, in terms of the choice of university studies, as well as the kinds of organizations and job roles, they should take up.

VIVA offers youth, parents and executives personalised coaching for the following purposes:

•   Career guidance
•   Coaching: Personal Statements, Resumes, Interviews
•   Personal development for greater impact
•   Parenting Skills
•   Family Dynamics

• “ Melissa's training is interesting, vigorous and inspiring. The examples she provided were useful and memorable to understand concepts and application.”

  
  

  Diane Chen
  Sr. Marketing Manager

• “ I thoroughly enjoyed Melissa's handling of the group - she was firm and effective, yet funny and entertaining. Even the role plays which I do not normally look forward to, were enjoyable. ”

  
  

  Su Lin
  Business Development and Sales

• “ As one of the owners of The Wine Company, I am relieved that I had Melissa to effectively streamline operations and yet able to 'up-the-service' of the entire crew. She has the inborn ability to gain trust of people. I like her training style, it is simple, it is engaging. ”

  
  

  Belinda Lim
  The Wine Company

• “ Melissa is an insightful person, a good listener and makes a wise counselor. She is empathetic, patient and tactful, able to grasp the issues at hand, be they about relationships or parenting, and present them back to one in such a way that one can understand, dispelling any confusion. She imparts life skills of managing good relationships in the process and makes one feel more confident about dealing with such issues. She is not only an insightful counselor, she is a skillful life-coach. ”

  
  

  Ong Gek Kuan
  Parent

• “ We engaged Melissa to customise a team building workshop for my team. Melissa did a thorough and highly professional workshop, meeting and seeking feedback from all participants prior to the workshop to have a better understanding of the underlying issues. The post workshop survey gave very high scores on meeting expectations, Melissa's effective facilitation of the workshop and recommendation to colleagues. Thanks, Melissa, for a job well done! ”

  
  

  Christine Goh
  Team Head, Corporate & Investment Banking European Bank

• “ Melissa is uniquely gifted in the area of life coaching. She loves people and is passionate to help others discover their strengths. She is simply expert and patient in the coaching process. She has helped me align my vision, emotions and plans to pursue my passion and life goals.”

  
  

  Jenny Lee
  Administrator